your own hands, just as we have told you. So that your daily life may win respect of
outsiders and so that you will not be dependent on anybody.
And that ye study to be quiet, and to do your own, and work with your own hands, as
we commanded you. That you may walk honestly toward them without, that you may
lack nothing. – Apostle Paul
I believe the above quotation is fundamental to the running of our day to day living. The
other version says make it an ambition; on the other hand, it is rendered as study. When I
look at this it explicitly shows of the need to exert an effort towards being a noble person.
Learn to mind your own business and not to poke your nose where it’s not invited. One
day some disgusted fellow will pull it off. Learn to work for your sustenance. Your life is
your responsibility, work for it! Study to be quiet and to mind your own business. To
work with your own hands such that you will be self sufficient, not needing anything
from anyone.
It is understandable and even an excusable fallacy that it is difficult for men to co-exist in
peace.
Our scientific power has outrun our spiritual power. We have guided missiles
and misguided men- Martin Luther.
How best do we measure maturity? Can we apply a
litmus test so as to get the result of it? Maturity in one is seen by their ability to handle
life situations. It can be measured based on how they react in the midst of the storm. How
best do you handle altercations?
Some people are so full of themselves, they just can’t accommodate others! Some people
are always charged up, ready to let it out on you even for no apparent reason! If someone
lashes out on you, give them a smile and hold your peace. Your silence speaks volumes.
It will melt their heart. How best do you show a fool that indeed they are a fool? Let them
spit out all the sonorous and unprintable stuff. After they are done with their verbal
diarrhea, look at them, say, “thank you,” with a smile and walk away. It will get back at
them at the spot where it really matters. It is a diplomatic way of telling one to go to hell
without uttering the word. This is a sign of maturity. You can’t be understood by
everyone. You are totally insane if you expect to be every person’s friend! Know those
who celebrate you and celebrate together with them. Don’t waste your time around those
who mean to pull you down. They kill the seed of goodness in you. Avoid such company.
It chokes you out. Go to a place where you are celebrated.
Care less about what people think of you because obviously you wouldn’t want for them
to discover what you think of them. Avoid being too self conscious rather concentrate on
being yourself. Learn to appreciate other people’s differences. You can’t go about cloning
yourself. Imagine how the world would be like if all people were like you! Boring, isn’t
it? Don’t expect the person next to you to walk, smile, and talk and behave as you. That’s
somewhat insane! You were born in a different environment, to different parents, exposed
to different challenges and obviously the programming of each is independent! Celebrate
each other. Take time to discover your mate’s weakness and strengths. Help to perfect the
strengths and avoid highlighting on their weakness. Don’t double click there;
confrontations are inevitable in such cases. Do everything in and out of love. It’s not
noble to be judgmental. Give people the benefit of doubt. Try by all means to protect
people in your heart. No matter how much people hurt you or step on your toes, do not
take offence.
You can’t play God, you aint got the power to define a man. Not every person looks at
life the way you do. What is food to me might be poison to you. Learn to respect people’s
views. Don’t force them to eat your food because it is poison to them. Appreciate
differences and celebrate each other in a healthy style. Take time to listen not to fight to
be heard, try by all means to understand. Waste no time trying to explain so as to be
understood, go out of your way, understand rather. Avoid being the first one to speak,
take your time to think. It doesn’t harm to say sorry even when you feel a drive to shout
out, “Are you mad.”
Grow relationship. Give your time, devotion and dedication to the development of a
relationship. Don’t be quick to take out of a relationship, invest in it. Know the right time
to stay and to bid your goodbyes. Whatever the case, learn to walk out with your dignity
intact. If there is a need to grow a relationship, take time to feed it. Give it your time and
attention. Whatever you need feed into will definitely grow. If there is need to break or
kill a relationship, starve it. Give it no time and attention. Whatever you starve will
definitely shrivel and die out.
Every person that you see around is jewel, they are outspokenly important! Avoid being
full of yourself, learn to give yourself away. That’s the only way we can touch and break
the heart of the next person such that they themselves become better entities tomorrow.
Treat the elderly like the elderly. Show them some respect regardless of their background
or status. Treat fellow men like brothers and fellow women like sisters. Treat everyone
with respect. To the young ones extend an arm of love, give them a helping hand. Do not
kill or frustrate the sweet spirit within them. In them lie great treasures of potential that
can be released once the conducive environment is created.
Every person was called with a unique assignment. Don’t arm twist others into fulfilling
your assignment. Be nice! Ensure that each and every one of us finds a place of destiny.
Help to identify and develop others peoples strengths. We can celebrate each others
differences. We were called unto peace. It is our responsibility to co-exist in peace. We
might all be looking different, black or white, but look how we are all the same! Focus
less on the difference and give credit to the similarities. After all is said and done, we are
all human beings. Human beings are relational beings. It doesn’t do any harm to pass a
smile, sit and talk to somehow. Never be too busy to meet a need. Encourage those who
are down trodden. That word of encouragement can be their defining moment; it will
change everything about them. In every person’s heart lies a deep desire to be loved. Love
someone today, tomorrow and forever. Give them your devotion. Love motivates people
to go for it in life. Be sincere; never say what you don’t mean. If you don’t have anything
to say, then you can as well keep your lips sealed. Let there be coherence in what you say
and do. Walk the talk.
We all have a point to prove, isn’t it? We are all equally wiser. Avoid confrontation,
rather exercise tolerance. You don’t have to be even by fighting your way out, let the truth
in every situation prevail. It is noble to hold your peace. Appear to be the fool, hold your
cool and earn respect. Respect is not achieved or earned through intimidation; it lies in
self denial and deep humility. We all have personal agendas to pursue, know when it is
important to pursue personal and cooperate agendas. Value yourself; you’re not a rag or a
door mate. You are a history maker. Never allow or give people the opportunity to run off
at you. Dress for success and do not wait to be dressed by success. Dress according to
where you are going. Learn to recognize talent; it is what you recognize that is attracted to
you. Nothing can by any means intimidate you. Be firm. Stand up to your beliefs. Don’t
be defined by other people’s opinions. You are special!
We were all created different. There are crazy characters, I can assure you that. Take your
time to learn characters, discover how to handle each complexity in an individual so as to
avoid squabbles or fall outs. You can bring the best out of every person when you take
your time to know them. Avoid dwelling on people’s weakness, you step on their toes and
venom will come out of their mouths. Learn to protect people in your heart. Why do you
have to pierce on the wounds, aim to bring healing to their sores. Even when a person
does the dumpiest on earth, encourage, never crush a spirit. Avoid talking down people.
Aspire to inspire before you expire- (author unknown).